We got a ton of dossier paperwork completed today! Everything Tom and I have to complete is finished and notarized. I sent the powers of attorney and the home study off to the Nebraska Secretary of State to be certified. We got our required two passport photos taken; I don't know what they use them for, but you need them for the dossier. We got a letter we needed from our finanacial advisor in the mail today and... we got a notice of the date and time for our biometrics appointment for USCIS today! It is in one month, which seems really far off, but at least we have an appointment. One more letter from the Saunders county sheriff and we are done with the dossier, except for the immigration approval.
Friday, September 24, 2010
Monday, September 20, 2010
More specifically, caused by the unfortunate inability of the above pictured glass of milk to morph into this:No, there was no strawberry milk in the house... not even any strawberry flavored syrup. A major meltdown was had, which managed to linger in a lesser form all the way through bedtime.
Actually, I was anticipating this meltdown. It had been brewing since bedtime on Saturday, when I read the girls a bedtime story that I thought they would enjoy: a lovely book called Yafi's Family, which is about an Ethiopian boy adopted by an American family. I thought the twins would enjoy hearing a story about a child like them. Alas, it hit too close to home, I think. Sad and angry feeling were dredged up, and we all got to experience the brunt of them.
I feel so stupid. And sad.
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
Sometimes I think that Candace and I have come a long way in our relationship. I know now that she does love me. She knows that I love her. I believe she trusts me to keep her safe and to stay with her always.
Then something might happen, like school starts. Things are "new". Different. Maybe a little scary. And all of our great progress seems to go right out the window. Back to the volatile behavior; "I love you, Mommy" one minute directly segues into a toddler-like wailing tantrum the next. It is so draining. And I frequently find myself responding in a less than positive way.
Time to remember that my sweet little girl is a work in progress. I tell people that my littles have been broken, and we need to help them mend. But it's so easy to forget in the heat of the moment and just be angry at what appears to be juvenile and manipulative behavior. Behavior that is really a cry for reassurance and structure.
The steps backward are discouraging, but I think overall we have gone mostly forward. I'm going to try to stay mindful... mindful of the needs of a little person who has had an awful lot of very hard things happen in her short life. To let her know it's okay to move forward, that I will be right behind her, every step of the way.
Friday, September 10, 2010
I am a fretful person by nature. Here are some of the things I am fretting about right now:
- One of the twins seems to be having trouble making friends at school.
- Our home study still isn't officially approved by the placement agency.
- I can't mail the I-600A in without the home study
- I have a sad lack of social interaction with adults since we moved out to the country.
- I'm second guessing my new hair cut.
- One of my dogs is getting old and decrepit.
- There is entirely too much yelling going on at this house.
This is just a sampling. There are several other things that I just don't want to list on my blog. I am not sleeping well (nothing new) and have been having a lot of headaches. I am wishing that a lack of appetite would kick in because I could stand to lose a few pounds.
Monday, September 6, 2010
We had a fun weekend for Labor Day. First up, on Friday the twins and the other little girls from summer cheer/dance camp performed with the big girls at the AGHS football season opener. It was fun, and the Bluejays were victorious!
Candace, Sarah and cousin Caden rolling rocks down the slide into a bucket.
Last week, my blog was added to a web site called Adoption Experiences. I am happy to be asked to participate in such a great listing! There are blogs there focusing on all different aspects of adoption: older child adoption, international adoption (many countries represented), attachment, domestic adoption, special needs adoption... you name it, there will be a blog relating to it! You can get there by clicking on the button located in my sidebar on the left of this page. (Scroll down past My Blog List.) Enjoy!
Thursday, September 2, 2010
I haven't posted anything about the progress over our second adoption lately because there is nothing to report! (Hint: use of italics here indicates extreme frustration.) While we are very happy with our agency's excellent reputation and meticulous attention to detail, apparently the wheels of progress turn very slowly at this very large agency. We are waiting for our home study to be approved so we can send in our I-600A. Also, apparently we aren't allowed to be privy to the items needed for our dossier until our home study is approved. We know what goes in the dossier from completing our first adoption, but since different agencies tend to want things done in slightly different ways, I can't really get any of it done until we get the green light from CHSFS.
On our first adoption, we had all the paperwork done except for the I-600A approval about six weeks after the agency application was turned in. Clearly that is not going to happen this time. I hate feeling like I'm just sitting here twiddling my thumbs. :(