Our first year

One year ago today we first met our daughters, Candace Selam and Sarah Fikir. The first year has been very hard. Our family changed forever, and change is never easy. But this change has been worth the difficulties... because with it came great joy and boundless love.

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School's out for the summer!

At our house, that means it's time for swimming in the lake.

Pretty as a picture... darn that bright sun, though!

Sarah "swimming"

Mermaids emerging from the depths of Big Sandy Lake.

Eek! A fish!

Warming up on the sandy beach.

Happy birthday with pomp and circumstance!

We had a pretty big weekend... first up, preschool graduation.

Then, it was home in a rush to get ready for the twins' sixth birthday party with their friends and fellow graduates. (Grandma and Grandpa Miles are visiting from Indiana, and it's Grandma's birthday too!) We had a "Princess and the Frog" party with this cool cake.

Six years old! Happy Birthday, Candace and Sarah!

Off to the pool

Just had to post this picture because it's cute.

Tigertown Classic 2010

Some hightlights from Anna's dive meet.:)

Front two and a half tuck on 3 meter.




Back one and a half tuck on 1 meter.

Meeting "new" friends!

Okay, I know I've been a total blog slacker lately. This time of year is just so busy... all of you moms know this. Last week, beloved oldest daughter Emily came home for the summer from Iowa State. Yeah! She is very happy that she got her room back, as the twins were recently moved to their own room, formerly occupied by Kenneth, who was moved to a room over our new garage. That rearrangement took up a lot of time for all of us.

This weekend, Tom, the twins and I accompanied Anna to her dive meet in Columbia, MO at the beautiful University of Missouri aquatic complex. Anna had personal best scores in both 1M and 3M. I'm hoping to post a video soon.

As a highlight of our weekend trip, we met my blog friend Steffany and her family. Steffany and I have "known" each other through the miracle that is the internet for almost two years, but this is our first real live meeting. I loved her! I knew I would. :) Steffany and her husband Adam are two people who really walk the walk and know how to be a change in this world. Please consider giving to Steffany's charity, Because Every Mother Matters... it is found at http://www.becauseeverymothermatters.com/. Right now BEMM is raising money for a birthing center in Africa. Just read the website to hear the amazing story of how Steffany came to this cause.

These are pictures from our weekend. Steffany talked me into playing paintball on Mother's Day after the 3M competition was over. This is something I never thought I would do in a million years! I am not crazy about either guns or projectiles being hurtled toward me. However... it was a blast! Our twins loved playing with Steffany and Adam's kids while we big people were off playing shoot 'em up, too. I can't wait until we can get together again.

Birth family

A little over a month ago, I posted about contacting the twins' birth family. I am very glad that our friend was able to find them and make contact. I am glad that the birth mother is alive. But... it all feels weird and vaguely stressful to me as well. It feels weird for me to have these beautiful girls as my daughters knowing that my gain is someone else's loss.

I'm glad to know the truth behind the girls' adoption. I have decided not to share the details of how they came to the orphanage on my blog. It's a private story that belongs to the twins. It isn't a neat and tidy story of "true orphans"... but it is a story that I can live with and one that reflects a desire by their family to do the best thing for them.

We are still working out how we will maintain contact with the birth family. If any of you have experience with this, I would love to hear what you are doing. Meanwhile, here is the first tangible benefit of this new contact. We shared some photos, and we got this one.