Thursday, March 25, 2010

Living

Today we found out tht the twins' birth mother is alive. I don't think she is well, but she is alive. She was very sick; the twins were left in the care of Kebebush. Much time passed with no word. The twins were too much for Kebebush to care for any longer, and they were turned over to an orphanage. The twins were legally considered abandoned. Their mother was presumed dead... but she isn't.

I am happy to have this news. I am scared about this news. I am not surprised. The information we have confirms what we had pieced together on our own. We have much to decide about how to reveal this information to the twins. I am very glad to possibly learn more about their family and maybe to be in contact with them. I don't want to say too much now about the circumstances until we have more information

We have many questions we hope to have answered.

12 comments:

Jen Stutzman said...

Wow that is a lot to take in when you did not know that. The Lord will give you wisdom. Hang in there.

E Lohroff said...

Wow, my immediate thought is what good would it do for them to know that now? Would it change any plans, would you go back to visit her if they knew?

Emily said...

Wow, that is a lot to take in. Praying for wisdom for you.

Becky and Naing said...

that is great you were able to get more information. how did you get this info? I would love to know more about Haven's Mom.

steffany said...

This is good news and truthfully scary as well. I keep in contact monthly with my twins parents. A blessing...yet honestly I feel confused a lot

Jennifer said...

That is such important information for the girls and for your own peace of mind. Did you hire an investigator? Good for you for digging for the truth.

Bennett said...

wow Paula!!! that is great news, although there are lots of questions and info to figure out!!! so happy that you are getting the info u needed, b/c I know how much you longed for and wanted this information.

Celeste

Bennett said...

@ E Lohroff, I am sure that the plans and dreams for any child an AP may have for their children does not change with information acquired a/b their life prior to us. I think if any thing it gives you answers to questions that will surface soon or later, especially if the kids are older and have knowledge of their mom/parents in Ethiopia.

Being the AP, it means so much to be able to answer just a simple question that relates to the their life before us. Even if it the question is..... why did my mom give me up for adoption?, or being able to ask the BM what are her desires and dreams for her children in America!

I do not believe we can extract these children from their country and not fight what is rightfully theirs, and that happens to be their story!

I give u two thumbs up Paula, b/c I know how frustrated you were and this is a huge, huge gain for you and your girls!!!!

Robbin Hopkins said...

Happy that another piece of the puzzle is put into place. Not sure about the person that said what "good" will it do. I know we often want the past to not be an issue but it is a part of our kids lives and I think KNOWING that my birth mother is alive regardless of where I am right now would have some impact on my life.

I pray God's strength for you. I am always mindful that my daughter does not belong to me, I am her custodian, developer, disciplinarian and provider, to prepare her for the world when she becomes an adult.

Bennett said...

Nicely stated Robbin, I agree 100% I know I came into this process so green thinking I will just get me a kid from ET and that be that, have a cake celebration go gotach day! but there is so much more to this process that I did not imagine almost two yrs ago! never imagined I would adopt 2 older children, never imagined I wld have an opportunity to meet their family in the entire village, had not idea that their story would keep me up at night, and not b/c it is a terrible story where things happened to them but the ultimate sacrifice to want so much more for you children, that you are willing to say to them, you go for now, but keep me in your heart and I will do the same, there will never be a day that will pass that I won't pray for you guys!!! That has to be w/o words the hardest thing a mom/family will ever do in their life time! So the story and gathering of info is very important, even if u came up w/a blank in the end, you can sleep better at night knowing u did all u can do!!!

Lori S said...

Wonderful news!!

Kristen said...

Paula...
I will be praying for discernment. Glad you have some answers... moving forward with you in prayer!
Love,
K